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  • Originally posted by AzraelFirestorm View Post
    Anyone have advice on how I might be able to just drop my guard, push through or "trick myself" into maybe being more forthcoming about my feelings?
    It took me months building up trust with my old therapist to get to the point where I could start opening up. Literal months. Unfortunately she ended up moving and I got (yet another) new therapist, and I really didn't want to go through another half a year of getting to the point where I could open up. What I did, and it may or may not work for you, is I told my new therapist in the third meeting "I need to talk. Please don't speak, let me get this all out. I need to pretend I'm not talking to you and I'm just talking to myself". And that's what I did. I shut my eyes, told myself I was alone in the room (for about ten to fifteen minutes) and started talking like I would if I were talking to myself.


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    • Originally posted by AzraelFirestorm View Post
      Seeing my therapist tomorrow. I haven't checked in with the witch doctor since last month, and that was the only time I've seen her. I'm a little nervous, and kinda confused about how to drop my innate shield of deflecting conversation away from my issues. Anyone have advice on how I might be able to just drop my guard, push through or "trick myself" into maybe being more forthcoming about my feelings?
      Have a drink beforehand.


      - If you must be ridiculous, I must ridicule you.
      - Those that can give up essential liberties in exchange for temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety. -- Benjamin Franklin

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      • Originally posted by Papa Bear View Post
        Have a drink beforehand.
        I know the comment was kind of tongue-in-cheek, but...

        Yeah, actually that could help. So long as you don't have a substance abuse issue, stopping for a quick drink might not be a bad idea. In the early days of meeting my old therapist (AKA the good one), I'd often stop off at a bar for a quick beer on the way. It helped "loosen my lips" before the meeting and often made the inevitable unpacking of my issues a little easier.


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        • Originally posted by Vysha View Post
          I know the comment was kind of tongue-in-cheek, but...

          Yeah, actually that could help. So long as you don't have a substance abuse issue, stopping for a quick drink might not be a bad idea. In the early days of meeting my old therapist (AKA the good one), I'd often stop off at a bar for a quick beer on the way. It helped "loosen my lips" before the meeting and often made the inevitable unpacking of my issues a little easier.
          ...I had to quit drinking. I don't disagree with the advice, but I do deal with some substance issues. Thanks, though.


          “Nobody is purely good or purely evil. Most of us are in-between. There are moths that explore the day and butterflies that play at night.”
          - Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute The Sun
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          • Originally posted by AzraelFirestorm View Post

            ...I had to quit drinking. I don't disagree with the advice, but I do deal with some substance issues. Thanks, though.
            This was the response I was actually hoping for. Good work, little brother.

            So, serious answer, deep breaths and repeating to yourself that whatever happens in there goes no further than that room. Remind yourself that it is a safe space and that everything you say not only is kept confidential, but can also help the therapist help you. Seemingly insignificant details can be VERY telling to the therapist.

            And above all, no matter what happens, we love ya anyway.


            - If you must be ridiculous, I must ridicule you.
            - Those that can give up essential liberties in exchange for temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety. -- Benjamin Franklin

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            • Originally posted by AzraelFirestorm View Post
              ...I had to quit drinking. I don't disagree with the advice, but I do deal with some substance issues. Thanks, though.
              Honestly, there are so many things I want to say, but the only one that really matters is; You made the right, healthy choice to quit. Always, always, always remember that. You're stronger than a lot of people who have a problem but never admit it, let alone take steps to remedy it.


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              • I think I feel another episode building again

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                • I'm going to do something stupid tonight. I can't help it. I need the relief. The pain. The ritual comfort. I'm covered in scars anyway. Just a few more.


                  “Nobody is purely good or purely evil. Most of us are in-between. There are moths that explore the day and butterflies that play at night.”
                  - Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute The Sun
                  (She/Her)

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                  • I actually wish you didn't have to. Then again I am binge eating and then puking.


                    I'm So Meta Even This Acronym

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                    • what does it say about someone when they say they want to help you but just set off a major episode of depression?

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                      • Because I figure a lot of us are probably in a bad place these days and maybe could do with this thread coming back so they have somewhere to vent... lemme start:

                        Anyone else's virtually-uncontrolled depressive episodes and severe anxiety steadily destroying them every second they reside in an increasingly-hostile country? Because ha ha hi


                        I've got a bit of a bad habit of extensively editing my posts after the fact. Please try and bear with me...
                        In case you're comfortable being more friendly and casual about things, my name's Estella, or Es/Essie for short. They/Them or She/Her, please.

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                        • Originally posted by Sconce View Post
                          Because I figure a lot of us are probably in a bad place these days and maybe could do with this thread coming back so they have somewhere to vent...
                          I don't think you're wrong.

                          Anyone else's virtually-uncontrolled depressive episodes and severe anxiety steadily destroying them every second they reside in an increasingly-hostile country?
                          (raises hand)

                          Originally posted by Sconce View Post
                          ha ha hi
                          Ah-ha, ahh, aha, haha, hah, hoo...

                          ​You ever feel something in your brain presenting you with an immediate choice, "Laugh or cry, right now. If you don't laugh right now, you're gonna cry," so you immediately force out a little uncomfortable giggle?


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                          • I’ve had to take a step I never thought I’d reach, though why I never thought that is kind of it’s own big box to unpack. I’m asking my job for a leave of absence due to stress and ongoing mental health issues.

                            Even though I’ve already been given the go-ahead and the blessing of basically the most senior person in my office as well as my direct supervisor I still feel... ashamed about it? I worry that my other coworkers will resent me for leaving during a crunch time. Every step of dealing with the paperwork feels like it’s questioning whether I’m really feeling what I’m feeling and amplifying the voice in my head that says I’m not actually depressed I’m just lazy and cowardly.

                            I’m sure I’ll feel better about it once I’ve actually finalized everything, but right now ‘not’ working somehow feels like the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

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