Thank you everyone for the reassurance. It does mean a lot. And I will say in regards to men being scary, it's a big reason I never thought about my sexuality for a long time. Men are gross. Like, masculinity isn't gross, and the male body isn't gross, but like...men...are gross. You know? The guys I always fell in love with were gentle nerd boys, but even in the nerd community there are lots and lots of toxic dudes who I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole.
Was never into furries, but I'm not knocking it. :P
(Side note: my fiancee (who is also bi, but did in fact have a big queer realization since she went to a women's college in New England which is the female equivalent of a British country prep school for boys in terms of GAAAAY) and I laughed really hard at "bisexuality is not harmony.")